Every man wants to be the best lover.

But there's one fundamental skill that almost no man has ever been taught:

How to use your voice to open women deeply.

Used correctly, this can turn a woman completely crazy.

You're speaking directly to her nervous system.

Her nervous system is the unconscious mind. The body.

Women's nervous systems are extremely sensitive to sound.

Your voice can literally control her responses.

Research has found that the v when a woman is actually in love—when she feels safe with a man - the sound of his voice can shut down her amygdala.

That's the part of the brain responsible for fear.

So even if she is stressed, his voice makes her relax. Open. Feel safe.

Sound is one of the most powerful orgasmic tools a man has.

In Tantra, we teach that the voice is probably the most important element in what I call the "triad of female pleasure."

When a man knows how to lead a woman with his voice, her voice opens up too.

And when her voice opens? You are unleashing her multiorgasmia.

A woman's larynx- her throat- is directly connected to her vagina.

In particular with her cervix

They're actually very similar structures. They look alike. (see image below

Let me give you a real example.

A few months ago I was making love with my beloved. But I was super unsettled. I wasn't very relaxed, and could notice I was getting distracted...

My partner is an amazingly well-trained lover - so he noticed. Here's what he did

1. He slowed everything.

2. And he came close to my ear and used his voice, very softly:

"Lya, nothing needs to happen. We're just here together. You just need to relax."

Immediately, my body dropped. I could feel my pelvis softening...funnily, suddenly again very attracted to him.

Here's what good lovers do: they observe when a woman's nervous system is tense - when she isn't relaxed.

They use their voice - almost like a hypnotic tool - to ground her. To open her body.

Let me share with you an advanced technique that I rarely teach:

Whispering in her ear and continuing to use your voice to arouse her.

You observe how she's responding. You might even close her other senses- maybe cover her eyes- so she can focus entirely on your voice.

You tell her what you're going to do. What's happening next.

It's extremely arousing for a woman to be led like this. To feel someone taking charge with his voice.

Now, maybe you're thinking: "Lya, how do I know this is actually gonna work?"

OK. I'm going to give you the tool my clients use for the first time

Try it. Tonight. Slow down. Speak from your belly, not your throat. Use MORE pauses. Whisper something in her ear.

Watch what happens. You'll feel it immediately. The way she leans in. Her body softeing

This is biology. You'll see it in the first conversation.

Some other men have asked me: What if I screw up if I try to dirty talk?"

Ok, there's a whole method.

A good lover will feel the woman, build up the tension. It can be tempting to start with the dirty stuff, but women work like slow-cooking water.

Ok but I'll tell you more of this on my next video...