My story

From Disconnection to Profound Intimacy with Life

Hi love, I'm Lya

I'm a Tantra therapist, intimacy coach, and guide for those ready to reclaim their life force energy and step into their most embodied, confident selves.

I am here to I'm here to awaken the part of you that remembers: you are worthy of Life, Love, and every drop of Pleasure that existence offers.

From My Home of Healers to My dark Night of the Soul

I grew up in mexican-spanish family of doctors and healers. My childhood in Mexico was filled between dinner tables with medical talks, psychology conferences, sleeping on the lap of my mother, and our kitchen filled with hundred ayurvedic spices and chinese medicinal food.

I was a sensitive kid. I carried a large intuition from an early age. But I was quiet. I didn't permit myself to take up too much space

At 19 I dancing professionally, depression hit like a fast-speed train. I felt like being swallowed by a deep dark hole.The depression became so profound I tried to escape life. Multiple times. In one moment, hovering between worlds, I knew with absolute certainty: if I left now, I wouldn't learn what I came here to learn.

So I chose to stay. Even when I couldn't feel why.

Still numb from any sense of aliveness, a friend invited me to a Tantric ceremony. I had no idea what I was walking into. But when I emerged from that session like someone had turned up the color saturation on life..

My body felt electric, awake, remembering something I'd forgotten. That moment opened a door to the journey back into my body.

In Search for Purpose

When I moved to Spain I went into a profound spiritual discovery, while on parallel, I threw myself into building tech companies, led high-performing teams, and achieved everything that looked like success. Inside, for years felt in the search for something more.

And then there was intimacy. Even with partners I was madly in love with - I felt blocked, dissatisfied - and just like many other wome,n I learned that it was "safer' to disconnect from my heart.

For many years, I thought this was how things were. I even thought I was asexual. What I didn't understand was that my sexuality was still in that protective state and numbed out by the effects of antidepressants

Then came the moment that changed everything. One day, walking up the stairs to my office, the sound of my heels on the stairs, and the thought that hit me like a punch: If I died tomorrow, would this be the life I wanted to have lived?

My heart tightened. I knew the answer was no. I walked from the company I had built, created a new chapter to find out who I actually was.

From Sexual Awakening to Divine Union with Aliveness

I found myself in this beautiful, loving relationship. However the same pattern showed up: sexual disconnection even in deep love.

When that relationship shattered, this became my awakening to dive into the deepest healing work imaginable. I excavated every buried part of myself. I became obsessed with understanding sexuality, my nervous system, and the journey back to inhabit my body.

And I returned to the teachings I once had on Sacred Sexuality and Tantra. Unlike many other spiritual paths I experienced, this one didn't ask me to transcend the body, but actually finding in the Body the original wisdom

My years learning different forms of Tantra were paired up with years studying with best teachers in the world on: Polarity, Men's Health, Erotic Intelligence, Somatic Sexuality, Trauma, and different forms of Tantra therapy and Psychedelic Assisted therapy

After 2020 I experienced a profound shift in the way I experienced life. The nature of reality opened beyond my capacity for existence. I experienced a new meaning to my sense of aliveness, my way to approach and speak in the world, to build communities, and to bring my energy and aliveness to doing what's in my hand to leave a bit of a better world than how I found.

There is always a spontaneous movement in all of us towards Connection, Aliveness and Health . No matter how isolated we got - or what tremendous traumatic experiences we have experienced.

Just like sunflowers moving to the sun, our Bodies always carry this an original impulse for Connection, Healing, and Love

And this is what my work is dedicated to.

About The Visionary Institute

I founded the Visionary Institute because I believe we are living through a new paradigm for relationships, love, and humanity

As society when we invidually begin to recognize our conditionings, the transgenerational old survival adaptations (turned into trauma)... we often find ourselves having Choice. The option to weave and create something different - and we often find ourselves reconnecting with a deep sense of authenticity.

When the body is naturally relaxed, it enters into its natural state of being: which is orgasmic. We suddenly experience pleasure in our eyes in the small things we wouldn't before notice, our old armours soften when we trust in Love.

Our hearts open when we embrace the nature of reality: fragile. Sometimes bringing hard moments, pain, grief, death. And also in the same spoon bliss, ecstatic love, joy, the giggle of a new born baby. When we stop resisting the nature of reality, we feel so much more alive.

When we work with sexuality, we work with Life force Energy, that organistic impulse that lives inside of each of us. The origin of life. That when we Expand and Embrace to its fullest we transform everything: we remember our purpose, we activate our creative power. We become magnetic forces for love and change in the world

This is a Love and Pleasure revolution.

Your invitation for you to come home with yourself

To come home to your body

To come home to the magnificent, wild, fully alive being you were born to be.

Some Weird Nice Facts You Didn't Know About Me:

  • I've explored more than 30 forms of Dance: from 15th-century Renaissance court dances to Brazilian Zouk up to Berber dances

  • I am an Archaeology Nerd, I've spent countless hours in ancient ruins, temples, and museums worldwide

  • I'm a total kitchen witch. One of my favourite ways to create has been cooking. In every country I visit, I take cooking classes or collect cookbooks

  • Theater and Dance were my first spiritual practices. Stepping onto the stage still feels like touching a divine flow.

  • I discovered I was an extrovert when I was 30 years old. Understanding my energetic social nature completely transformed how I moved in the world

  • I created this epic list with 100 things I want to do before I die, since then, many people have followed suit and done their own too!

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